I am the perfect mom……
Being a mom has been such a blessing. It is something I never thought I would have the title “mom.” After years of trying we finally decided to adopt. I was determined to become a mom one way or another. We eventually chose to foster to adopt. Julian and I, were told we had a better chance to get a newborn which is what I wanted so badly. I wanted nothing to do with older kids. Little did I know God had other plans.
Julian and I have been foster parents for 16 months and have had over 30 kids in our home. So many people approach me while in public, on-line, family, friends, case workers, clients, etc. they always tell me you have it all together. Your kids are so well behaved. You make parenting look so easy. You are such a good momma. I wish I were like you. You are such a perfect mom! I ENVY YOU!!! Teach me your secrets…….. STOP!
I dislike being put on the spot. Don’t get me wrong I love when my kids have made a good impression on others. It makes me feel proud as a parent. I do not like when others put me on this pedal stool and worship me. Every child is different, every situation I handle differently. Guess what I don’t have it all together!!! There are no secrets. I go to bed every night thinking to myself; I shouldn’t have told my son/daughter that. I always try harder the next day to be better for my KIDS! No one else but my kids. My world revolves around them, and I love every minute of it. Knowing I can make a positive impact on their lives is my reward. So no I am not the perfect mom, actually far from it. What I have is an imperfect life with imperfect kids and imperfect husband and imperfect dogs. Who by the way just ate all of our deserts. Thank you fur kids, hope you enjoyed it.
I look at every mom and just want to hug her. I want her to know that the mom she is envying has the same flaws just like she does. We mess up every day. I do it more than once every day. What I can tell you is I don’t stress over the small stuff and take every moment with my children and embrace it. I teach my kids the basic manners just like you have with yours. I do homework every night just like you do. I repeat myself 1000000 times to go put their shoes up, just like you do. I am just like you! Your four your old told you No, guess what so did mine. Your teenage rolled her eyes; mine did too. Your kids started to fight over a toy; mine did too. You were on an urgent phone call and gave your kids the evil, guess what so did I ! I also mouthed “go way” just in case you were wondering. You lost your mind during breakfast because you have children whining they are hungry, me too! Guess what they cried breakfast was taking forever I walked away and said eat cereal! Teach them to complain again. So yes I am very imperfect, and I don’t regret any minute of it, I am still learning, and my kids teach me every day to try harder the next day.
We are raising them to go out into the world to be decent human beings, Not robots.
So if you want to call me a “Perfect Mom” well I just joined your party late. We are all Perfect in our way! Enjoy your kids and forget about trying to be cookie cutter mommy.
-Love always, an Imperfect Mother
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