A letter to our daughter’s mother: our adoption story.

We are approaching our adoption, and I am overwhelmed with so many emotions. This adoption has been a long-awaited moment, and we can’t wait to see what our future holds with our daughter. 
Throughout this whole process, it has been heavy in my heart to write to our daughter’s Biological mom. I know little about her but just want to thank her for giving our daughter life but Most importantly giving her a second chance in life.

To the wonderful woman who gave life to our daughter,
I just want you to know we are proud to call her our daughter. The beautiful gift we were very fortunate to receive, is telling me what a significant loss another woman experienced. I don’t mean that by any disrespect. You pushed aside your selfish acts to make sure she has a better future and with that shows how beautiful you truly are. Don’t think for a moment that she won’t know who you are and where she came from.
It takes a lot for someone to realize that this precious gift deserves the world. For whatever reason, no judgment on your part, you were unable to give this child the future they deserve. I just want you to know I can’t thank you enough for being brave and making sure your child’s future is going to be magical. I want you to know she is very loved and well taken care of. She has grown so much and is such a beautiful young lady. I appreciate that you carried this child under your heart and gave her life.
So please don’t feel ashamed or guilty because you gave her up for adoption. I speak of you with all the respect you deserve because you gave our daughter a second chance. You gave her life, and we thank you for that. I don’t want you to worry, her father and I will treasure and guard her with our lives. I will make sure she has the best opportunities in life.
We will honor the sacrifice you made when you made the impossible choice to give her up for adoption.
Thank you for this amazing child. No matter what she will know who you are and what brave choice you made and how much you love her for doing this.
Thank you and Take care.
Julian and Kristina Ortega

Capitan Period Pants! #Momlife

“Mom, I can’t wait till I get my period.

I will grow chest hair and a beard like dad!

My voice will get deep,

and people won’t look at me like I am a little boy.”

This morning was a #momlife moment. Kyleigh and Nate came over this weekend, so that makes a total of 7 kids, this morning was busy and loud! In the middle of getting everyone their hot tea and breakfast, my ten-year-old approaches me, wearing his costume and holding a wooden sword ready to conquer the world. I am sipping on coffee listening to my girls argue in the back ground about how I am making them drink a vitamin C concoction because everyone was full of boogers. Anyways back to my son, he approaches me with so much confidence and determination. I ask him if he was on a mission and he replies “Mom, I can’t wait till I get my period. I will grow chest hair and a beard like dad! My voice will get deep, and people won’t look at me like I am a little boy.”  My oldest looked at me as if I had been keeping a secret from her and my two youngest daughters about rolled over in laughter. He looked at me waiting for a reply; I explained to him that yes one day he will hit puberty, but he technically would never have a period because he is a boy.  He asks, “well what is a period?”  In my head I am thinking, okay he is ten how can I make sure I don’t freak him out…… I could A. Sugar coat it, you know make it sound like the best seven days of our lives, so he doesn’t freak out. Or B. Lay it to him straight and be upfront and honest and pray I don’t traumatize him because at this age the imagination is in full force. So I went with plan B, I explained what happens, and to my surprise, he said well good thing y’all don’t die during that week, never mind I just want my puberty to come already so I can be like dad!  He runs away to go back to play. I look up at my two youngest girls, and the look of fear is on their face. Whoops! Surprise! Everyone learned about periods in our house today! #momlife

spooktacular drink pic    My kids have been begging me to do things for Halloween and I came up with this drink for them. They loved it so much yesterday, I decided to go with it and every day after school I will come up with something Spooktacular for them.

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Ingredients 

  1. 1 cup Trumoo Orange Scream Low-fat Milk
  2. 1/3 cup Pineapple Sherbet
  3. The Original Reddi Wip
  4. Halloween Oreos
  5. One Glass cup

I simply put the Pineapple sherbet in the cup first. I added the Orange milk and whipped the Reddi Wip on top. Added some crushed Oreos on top!

Just like that you have a Spooktacular Drink that the kids will love!

My children joked all night that they had a gool and goblin drink.

If you all try it out  I am sure you can change the sherbet flavor or even the milk. My kids love pineapple that is why I decided on that flavor of sherbet and of course the orange milk simply because it had to do with Halloween.

Let me know in the comments below if you tried it or even plan on trying it out.

-Momma k and the Bunch

 

What inspires you?

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Growing up I knew I always wanted to be a mom

But I knew I had to be financially stable to do so. I went to college and got a job as a certified nursing assistant. I worked as a CNA for five years before I decided to change my career. I loved being a CNA, but my passion was hair and makeup. I went back to school and received my certificate within ten months. I immediately started my career, and within four short months, I was writing a business plan.

In 2013, I had purchased my first hair salon. I was so dedicated and motivated. I loved what I was doing! The first time in my life I had a talent that was taking off like a wildfire. Business was going great, and I was enjoying every minute of it. 2 years after we opened the doors, I started to think about starting a family. I knew it had to be through adoption and I was ready to take that leap. My husband and I would joke he would be a stay at home daddy because I couldn’t see myself leaving my job to take care of my kids full time. Little did I know God had other plans for me.

In 2016 we started the process, business was still going strong. May 2016 we get our first placement. They were 10 and seven at the time. I figured out my work schedule and clients were more than understanding of having to take kids to and from school. It worked out perfect. It wasn’t until we started to get infants is when the business began to get rocky. Again I have always wanted to be a mom, but I didn’t realize how much time and effort it took to play that role. I decided to stop taking new clients, and if some of my clients hadn’t seen me in 4 months, I dropped them as clients. I wanted to make sure I had a strict schedule at work so I could focus on my babies after work.

At this time I was enjoying being a mom. I couldn’t get enough of it. I was focusing so hard on my little family I was neglecting my business, and it was showing but deep down I just didn’t care. I still went to work, but it was slowing down a lot because I wasn’t staying committed to my clients. I was giving 110% to my children and was realizing quick just how much my love and passion for my business was dying. I love my shop and clients but I was given this opportunity to be a mom, and I can’t seem to focus on my business. Honestly, I am okay with that. I still see very few clients now, and I enjoy the relaxed schedule at work.

It is crazy to see how life was four years ago. Now I can’t wait to spend any given moment with my children. Motherhood to me has been a complete blessing, and I want to make sure I give it my all. I never thought I would be living this life after I was told I was not able to have kids. Being determined to become a mother one way or another I wasn’t going to take no for an answer.

I am having a hard time dealing with the relationships I have made in the last four years with clients. I feel like I have failed them but I know they all understand why I made the decision I did, I am not leaving any customer without any notice, and I have taken care of them to make sure they have a new stylist. I just miss that connection with them, but I am loving all the new connections I am making with these children.

My passion for my business may have died down, but my love for my children has grown so much. I hope to make something of my business later in life, but for now, I will raise these children to become successful in life. I feel blessed with how life turned out, and I wouldn’t want it any other way. It has shown me so much and has allowed me to find my real passion… Being a MOM!

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I am sure every mom out there has a #momlife story! I would love to hear them.

I am a mom of 4 right now. Over the weekend we did respite for a four yr old and also had Ky and Nate over. So we had seven kiddos running around making memories. All of them complained about being bored, so we decided to do a glitter project! “Herpes” of arts and crafts yay!!!!!

So we all sit down, and of course, mom has rules! Wash your glitter hands in the bathroom!!! Well, a child decided to shove a toy down our drain in the bathroom sink. ( under construction during that time) so the tub is where they need to rinse their hands.

Anyways back to the arts and crafts. They all start engaging and having fun. Before I knew it, it looked like the trolls just farted throughout my kitchen. So I tell kiddos to start cleaning up. I assumed they all remembered to go to the restroom to rinse their hands…… That is where I went wrong. I didn’t do the typically repeat till the moment they follow through haha

Fast forward to dinner. It was the boys turn to wash dishes and girls had to put them up. So I get everyone bathed, teeth brushed, hair combed, lotion applied, medicine and house picked up. I decide it is time for a late night glass of milk and cookies. We all know being a mom if you aren’t running to your room locking the doors to eat those treats in peace! They will smell the cookies, and the search team begins to hunt for the sweetness!! So I put all kids to bed and make my move. Light off in the kitchen ☑ grab the cup out the cabinet ☑ open the fridge quick to grab the milk ☑ pour milk quietly ☑ grab three cookies ☑ run to the room ☑

Finally!!!! Victory is mine. I am enjoying my package of peanut butter cookies and a tall glass of milk.

I completed my task with no kids interrupting woot woot!!!

I look at the bottom of my cup to see how much glitter I have left to drink. Wait for what? Yes! I look in my beautiful cup of sparkles! There wasn’t a little bit of glitter….. Oh no! Tons of silver glitter! I immediately laughed. Why not! This is what I get for hiding and sneaking a late night snack.

I hear little feet heading my way and toss my wrapper evidence! Our 4yr old comes in and ask for a drink and of course notices my cup. “Momma share please!” so I explained how momma is now going to be like the characters off of Trolls and I couldn’t share because I had consumed all the amazing goodness already. Don’t worry made sure to check his cup. He would love to poop out glitter … I am not!

 

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Communication board #Momlife

 

I am horrible at remembering! Especially when you have six children running around the house needing everything all at once. So I decided to make a “communication board.”

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It is a dry erase board that I have hanging in our laundry room. This board is used for….. You got it! Communication!

Our kids know that if they need something write it down on the board. They broke something to write it on the board. They need to say something and don’t want to tell us… Write it on the board.

We encourage our children to take to us but who are we kidding? Kids think every time we talk it ends in a lecture. So I tell our kids to utilize the board and surprisingly it works pretty well.

We have had kids write notes like ” you keep making beans. Can you plz make something else?” “stop peeing on the toilet” “need razors.”

My husband uses it for things he may need; He wakes up early for work so if he runs out of anything he can jot it down real quick. If I make a run to the store, I make sure to check the board to see if anyone needs anything as well.

Great tool to use for a busy house hold. Our board has been around since day one. I wanted a system that most children could use and understand with out it being too complicated. The communication board works for our family pretty well.

We also have magnetic clips on the board. They started off as coupon clips. If anyone found one, they would clip the coupon. It has now begun to become a wrap collector. I remember walking by and seeing a zip lock box “top” cut to it one day. Asked around who did it and my husband said well I used the last one of that type and wanted to make sure when you went to the store you bought what needed. I thought this is a genius idea! Now everyone clips body wash wrappers, battery box clipping or anything else they need. They just cut off the core description of what they need.

Helps for a natural grocery store trip!

I hope this explained the basis of our board. If you have any more questions, please feel free to ask.

Thank you,

Momma K and the bunch
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